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Monday, January 11th, 2010
Tidings of Comort and Joy – 5 Ways to Put Some Peace & Quiet into Your Day
Monday, December 15th, 2008Several years ago I made a change from teaching ESL throughout the school to teaching in a kindergarten classroom. I made the change to kindergarten, because I had thoroughly enjoyed going in to one of the kindergarten classrooms to teach ESL.
It was heaven. The children looked up at me with their big wide eyes. They were not afraid to participate. We sang songs, chanted, colored, and pasted. It was the perfect language learning environment.
So I took the plunge and began teaching alongside my friend and two other teachers, each of whom had taught for a minimum of twenty years. I loved the atmosphere and the camaraderie, but then after a few years something changed.
My 2 young boys became the same age as my students ,and nothing would ever be the same. I had a 2 year old and a five year old at home, and 24 four and five year olds at school. Instead of going home full of pride and joy, I went home exhausted, only to play the same role and use the same language in the same tone of voice. I spent every waking moment trying to convince these little people to make good choices and use indoor voices and I was tired. I felt like I had pins and needles poking into me for all the times someone needed something from me.
The worse part was I felt like a failure and a fraud. I was comparing myself to these women who had been teaching this age for decades and still had amazing creativity and passion for their jobs. I wanted to be the teacher I would want for my boys, but I wanted to be somewhere else. I tell you this story, because we all know it. The discomfort that comes from not taking the time for peace and quiet, from not listening to myself.
Thus, I share some ideas for adding a touch a quiet to your day. They may seem very simple, but I can assure you it is not always easy for us to do something only for ourself. Please try. We all need you to be the best you can be. Here they are.
5 Ways to Find Peace and Quiet in Your Day
1. Learn to meditate. Do it daily.
On this month’s Whole Teacher Holiday 911 call, Grace gave us a great point to help quiet the mind during meditation. She suggested that as thoughts came through (like we know they will) to focus instead on the space between the thoughts. As you let the thoughts pass by, focus on making the space bigger and bigger.
2. Try using aromatherapy to calm your senses.
Lavender is great for relaxation. We all have scents that we associate with past experiences. The smell of dove brings me back to my grandmother’s bathroom as a little girl. Find the scents that you associate with relaxing, and one sniff can change your state.
3. Read an inspirational story or poetry.
I have a book of poetry by Hafiz that my yoga instructor would read from before each class. Now, when I read those poems, I can get right to my most relaxed state.
4. Listen to quiet music or soothing nature sounds and dim lighting.
A few summers ago I helped my sister out by working as a receptionist in her spa. I loved the calming music that swept through the reception area and relished the contrast to my own job as a high school guidance counselor. In my office things are often hectic with people always popping in with problems that need assistance. I decided to adopt some of the same atmosphere techniques for my office. I’ve turned off the overhead lights and brought in lights from home, but what students appreciate the most is the music. I have collected CD’s, but often log into internet radio on the computer. There are some great ambiance stations that bring me right back to the spa.
5. Finally, if you can’t escape the noise, consider ear plugs.
Look for the white squishy ones used for sound (not swimming). They come in handy for loud concerts or snoring family members.
Silent Night, Holy @%&*! The Oven Is On Fire
Sunday, November 30th, 2008Tonight I have been working on the December issue of The Whole Teacher e-newsletter and writing about the Balance Before Burnout Reserve for this month – Silence. The articles are written but there is editing and loose ends that must be completed before the Tuesday publish date. My husband is gone for the night and I set aside some time to spend the quiet evening on my writing.
The irony is that at this moment my reality is anything but silent. The fan on the stove is now set to hyper boost as I bake cupcakes for my youngest who turned 9 today to bring to school tomorrow. I am trying to clear out a house full of smoke from the fire caused from drippings of the flan I baked earlier with my older son for his Spanish class . "La comida esta en fuego!"
The dishwasher is humming with it’s second load of dishes from the family party we had last night. And in the midst of this, I am attempting to write about the importance of finding a "piece of quiet" when the post I am working on disappears into thin air. It is at this point when the little voice of my inner critic begins asking me "Who do you think you are?" as I attempt to finish the work I had planned for my own business this"quiet" evening (and check the oven once more for flames). It’s funny how I have no problem hearing him over the roar of kitchen appliances.
I could listen to this voice. I am tired and beat from a weekend of "busyness", but I know exactly why I am the person to do this job. I know why I have worked so hard to make The Whole Teacher a reality. I know how much time teachers put into their work. I know how hard it is to do it all. I know first hand how our best laid plans often fall to the wayside (or up in flames). I know how we often put ourselves last on our list, and I know how much we crave a group of like-minded people to support us as we try to be the best for our students.
Therefore I choose to look at the lesson and try to find the humor in the situation. There are many parts of life we can’t control, but it’s only what we make of it. We all have this inner critic’s voice inside of us. The stressors are inevitable, but we must build our resilience by taking care of ourselves and building reserves of what we need most. Right now I need to finish my baking, close up the windows, and head upstairs to a quiet candle-lit bedroom (better yet let’s forget the candle) and follow my own advice for silence. Who knows what inspiration will come when I take the time to listen?
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